MANIFESTING MONEY Lesson 3: Saying YES to your Mega Money Goal

The next step in manifesting your money goal is to turn your attractor switch ON. This involves getting your subconscious mind to line up to your conscious choices. Whilst your conscious mind has embraced your intention, your subconscious needs to be in that space too. Your subconscious beliefs and patterns are responsible for everything that is in your life today, so to change tomorrow, you need to work with the subconscious today. More significantly it is through the subconscious that our Soul speaks to us, so that makes this approach a must!

So today I’m going to give you some information about the conscious and subconscious – its quite a read, but really important to understanding manifesting. It’s an extract from my online Course in Feelings. Ready to turn your manifesting switch ON? Yes, let’s do it!

Conscious Mind
This is the part of the mind that you are aware of. You know it as the voice of the mind – forever commenting on your world. For instance when you are out shopping you might hear it say ‘now, do I want to make roast potatoes or mashed potatoes tonight? The children like mash, but these potatoes are too small’.

It not only sounds like a voice, but the conscious mind gives you mental images too. Along with the words roast potatoes it might show images of delicious potatoes, basting in a pan. And into the voices and image mix, come feelings, for instance if you have happy memories of family dinners where roast potatoes were served, cooking these for supper will be appealing without you even knowing why.

The Subconscious Mind
This part of the mind works below your awareness. It controls things from behind the scenes. For example the subconscious keeps your body functioning, after all you don’t instruct your heart to beat, or digestive juices to be secreted when you eat, or your muscles to contract as you walk. No, that’s all taken care of by the subconscious mind.

Moreover everything you do and have done your entire life, everything you see and have seen, everything about you and your world, has been and continues to be recorded in your subconscious mind. The subconscious is like a camera storing your entire experience of the world, including the zillions of bits you don’t even notice at the time. Although most of us cannot access most of this information it is nonetheless still in our minds, influencing how we think and respond. Most importantly it influences what we attract and what we repel.

The information stored is used by the subconscious as reference points to determine the best course of action in the present. If you have been bitten by a dog as a child, when you encounter one as an adult you will feel fear and avoid going too close. You don’t choose to feel fear. It happens automatically. In this way the past creates the present.

The fear is there to protect you from future pain, and in this way feelings act as your friend. In truth all of your feelings, produced by the subconscious, are there to help keep you safe and alive and it’s important to know and acknowledge this truth. Anger, frustration, sadness, guilt, defensiveness etc once, although helped you survive in the past – emotionally, physically or mentally. Some of your feelings might not help you now or even make sense, but they did at some point.

The subconscious mind not only keeps records but uses the information to run daily affairs in your life, in this case your money matters – how much you attract, how you feel when you receive it, how you feel when you spend it, when and how you save it or spend it etc etc.

When you wish to send a note to someone, you don’t have to say to yourself “now how do I write a ‘d’?” No, your hand simply knows this. Your mind knows this. You never have to remember the steps you were taught, you just go ahead and write. In the same way that it allows us to write without thinking about the task of writing; it guides your relationship to money without conscious thought about what is motivating your choice at the moment.

Your subconscious is responsible for over 90% of everything you think, say or do, every response or feeling. Wow! is that not amazing? And that’s the beauty of it – and the problem of it. It helps you recognise the numbers on your bank statement, but it also tightens your tummy when there is not enough money to pay the bills.

And alongside all the money events of our lives the subconscious has recorded all the feelings associated with them. Many and most of these we don’t remember, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t influencing you right now. Let’s say for example that every time you saved every cent of your pocket money as a little child your brother said that you were stingy. This would bring up negative feelings around saving money, and you might have turned out to be spendthrift. So, without knowing why, you never have any savings and you can’t stop buying stuff.

But what if you actually had a natural flair for knowing what shares to buy on the stock market? Wouldn’t the memories in your subconscious hold you back? Of course! So this week I am going to give you exercises to help you become even more aware of your feelings and behaviours around money. I’m particularly interested in the feelings tthat lie deeply hidden, waiting to steal away the money success you desire. We don’t have to discover all the memories and hey! we don’t have time to dig up every inch of the past either! What we want is simply for you to get in tune with your negative feelings about money so that you can use the information they provide to move on.

I like to think of feelings and intuition as falling into two categories – a YES feeling, and a NO feeling. And, both the person experiencing the feeling and any observant outsider can easily identify which feelings are active by simply looking at body language.

The man on the mountain picture is what a strong YES feeling does to the body. The entire body is open and reaching out into life in a joyful trusting way. A subtle version of this YES feeling would be somebody sitting with their arms and legs uncrossed, shoulders down and a friendly look on their face. No tension in the tummy, no pounding heart or short of breath. When you feel this way when dealing with your money, you know that your conscious and subconscious are lined up to achieve the goal.

A strong NO feeling would be the opposite. The body pulls itself inward, shrinking away from life. A subtle version of the NO feeling would be somebody sitting shoulders hunched, hands clenched, legs and arms pulled into the body by either crossing them or standing very erect and stiff. Spastic colon is also a version of this NO constriction. You probably experienced such bodily responses when stressing about money – or lack of it. I certainly have!

Now first thing to remember is that both YES And NO feelings and expressions are our friend. What! you might say! How can a spastic colon or heart palpitations be my friend? Simple! They give us important information about our money beliefs in the moments. To be clear, a YES is my friend, AND a NO is my friend. A YES tells you that your money attractor switch is ON. A NO feelings tells you that it is OFF.

The more you work with your NO feelings in the right way (which is what I’m going to teach you), the more wonderful YES feelings you will experience. The experience of a NO feeling is the sound of KNOW. When you have NO feeling, you KNOW that you’re repelling money.

Feeling are your friend! Feelings are information delivered straight from the subconscious. YES feelings are the signposts to natural success. YES feelings are like magnets, magnetising into your life everything you need to create abundance money, success and happiness. We all experience a range of YES or NO feelings every day, mostly in less pronounced versions than the YES man pictured above, but either way if we turn our attention to them it’s surprisingly easy to feel whether it’s a NO or YES.

And from now on we will be doing exactly as a regular practise. Over time and with repetition, you will become increasingly sensitised to the opening and closing feelings in your body, the YES and NO of the moment. When that happens you are in touch with essential information about your relationship to money, information that comes from a far greater and more potent source than that of your conscious mind. It comes from your unconscious, your Soul and the supra consciousness. And this is good news as you can use this YES/NO information to guide you to achieve your intention that you have lovingly placed in your envelop.

Practising the lessons

Start a record of what you feel when you think about or work with money in any form, noting whether you get a YESor NO feeling. Every time you take out your wallet to buy something, notice whether your feel open and expressed orclosed and shrunken. Everytime you see money in your bank account, notice whether you get YES/joy or NO/fear. In EVERY interaction with money you will take out your notebook, note the time, circumstance and whether you have a YES or NO sensation in your body. It’s not about mind, it’s about body, the voice of the subconscious.

After doing this for a week, you will have a much clearer idea of whether your subconscious is supporting your MEGA MONEY goal or countermanding it. This learning will put the power of choice in your hands. It’s key to note that the intention of this practise is NOT to change your NO feelings, just become aware of them. This is a very important point.

So my friends, a lot of information, but really important. Please post up at least one sentence a day on this face book page. Think of it as your diary. By doing that you will keep yourself doing the right legwork to get maximum mileage and transformation.

Good Luck! Good Money!

Help from Unseen Guides

Unseen Guides
by Dr. Napoleon Hill
Source: You Can Work Your Own Miracles Fawcett Columbine Book. Copyright 1971. Pgs. 45, 46, & 47.
I was sent this inspiring piece recently, and find it so uplifting that I’m simply sharing it with you as is. Enjoy!
‘After I had met with one failure after another, and each time was tempted to desert or neglect my major mission in life, I began to notice that the effects of each failure were immediately wiped out the moment I got back on the track and began to carry out my mission. This happened so often that it could not be explained away as a mere coincidence.From personal experiences, I know there are friendly Guides available to everyone who will recognize them and accept their services. In order to avail oneself of the services of these unseen Guides, two things are necessary: first, one must express gratitude for their services; second, one must follow their guidance to the letter. Neglect in this respect will bring sure, if not always swift, disaster. Perhaps this may explain why some people meet with disasters, the cause of which they cannot understand; disasters which they do not believe to be the results of any fault on their part.

For many years I was so sensitive concerning the unseen Guides, whose presence I had felt, that I carefully avoided all references to them, in both my writings and in public lectures. Then, one day in a conversation with Elmer R. Gates, a distinguished scientist and inventor, I was overwhelmed with joy when I learned that he not only had discovered the presence of unseen Guides, but he had formed a working alliance with them which enabled him to perfect more inventions and procure more patents than had ever been granted to the great inventor, Thomas A. Edison.

From that day on I began to make inquiries of the hundreds of successful men who collaborated with me in the organization of the Science of Success, and discovered that each of them had received guidance from unknown sources, although many of them were reluctant to admit this discovery. My experience with men in the upper brackets of personal achievements has been that they prefer to accredit their success to their individual superiority.

Thomas A. Edison, Henry Ford, Luther Burbank, Andrew Carnegie, Elmer R. Gates, and Dr. Alexander Graham Bell went to great lengths in their descriptions of their experiences with unseen Guides, although some of these men did not refer to these invisible sources of aid as “guides.” Dr. Bell, in particular, believed the invisible source of aid was nothing but a direct contact with Infinite Intelligence, brought about by the individual’s stimulation of his own mind through a burning desire for the attainment of definite objectives.’

God Speak To Me

I’ve had several significant moments in my life where I’ve felt that I’ve reached the end of my tether. That means hopeless. Today I was reminded how, by turning to God at those times, I never fail to get a response.
Years ago, I was six months into my motivational training business in Cape Town, and my income stream suddenly dried up, and so did I! Can’t explain why, but my va va voom went walkies, and there was simply no fire in me. I feel into a state of apathy. You know the space where you chew up time doing things, but never get to the heart of the matter.
One day I felt so bad about myself, and I mean, bad, like I was no good, useless and pathetic. I needed the motivational speaker, a private one! One day I stared at the wall for a time, then decided to lie in the garden and stare at the sky instead. As I did this I started to say ‘God speak to me, God speak to me’. I said it over and over, like a person in a fever.
After a little doze I went back to my desk (productive hey). An hour later the phone rang. I was surprised to hear the voice of a lady from Johannesburg whom I had met just once. She was in the same industry and we had a networking drink, but no further business had transpired. She said ‘I had such a strong intuition to phone you to tell you that if your business is not doing as well as it could, it’s because there is something deep inside you that is stopping it.’
It was only a little while after this call that I suddenly realised that her phoning me was the answer to my prayer – It was God speaking to me, directly! And that’s how it works. When we ask with energy, God, the life force, always responds. People are God’s messengers when we are so blocked we can’t hear our Soul.

So if you like me, have moments of hopelessness, give the ‘God help me’ routine a burst – and then let me know the outcome!

Feed Your Soul

‘Imagine that the universe is a great spinning engine. You want to stay near the core of it – right in the hub of the wheel – not out at the edges where all the wild whirling takes place where you can get frayed and crazy. The hub of calmness, that’s your heart, that’s where God lives within you, where you will always find peace.’  



Last night I fell down a double flight of stairs. I wasn’t hurt, just stunned – and yes, bruised. But the moment got my attention and reminded me of something I am totally and utterly convinced about : discomfort is a message from the Soul. Discomfort is a sign post, a way of your soul getting your attention.

Speeding down 50 steps, slip sliding in the wet of a recent rain storm, and musically accompanied by the sound of my umbrella clanging on each step, certainly got my attention. Believe you me!I sat, skirt askew, in semi darkness. The passage light had thankfully switched itself off during my descent, bringing the dignity to my thighs. Surrounded by concerned family and agog neighbours I was struck dumb but incredibly aware at the same time.

It’s true I could only just give ‘yes’ ‘no’ answers to concerned questions like ‘did you bump your head’ :  ‘no’, do you want to go the hospital?’ : ‘no’.  But it’s equally true that I knew Spirit had just dealt with me. Actually I feel like I’ve just had a big hiding, right on my backside. 50 sharp slaps to get me to stop doing what I have been doing.And so today, I’m sobered. I’m connected to a sense that something in my life is totally out of alignment. And I’m making mental and emotional space to listen so I know exactly what adjustments are calling to be made.

PS: interested in finding out more about how your Soul speaks to you using the process of discomfort? My  book Ride the River explains it all, easily!.  To order email


This week I had a chance to experience the power of defensiveness. This time it came my way (often I’m dishing it out!)  And yes, it is a power.
It’s powerful to show us exactly where we have stuck baggage. And it’s also powerful to stop us from being fully present. From a Soul point of view the minute we are not present we are out of alignment with our Soul. That’s means the Soul stream – a  juicy, life energy, loaded with useful information and opportunity, just passes us by!

But no human being in their right mind would consciously say NO to a such a river of aliveness and wisdom. Being defensive has a function. It is a survival strategy, psychological, emotional and physical. Often it’s so entrenched we’re not even aware of it. That’s what happened to me.

Years ago a friend told me that I was  ‘quite defensive.’ This feedback took me by surprise. At the time  I thought I was quite the opposite. (Goes to show how key listening to others is in our development.) As is the way with casual comments like these, it penetrated – and stayed! I started to become aware of little moments when a comment or question would trigger a flush of defensive gggrrrrrr. When grrrr happened, I wasn’t able to be listen, hear or be objective. A part of me shut down.

But what, I wondered could account for my defensiveness? Shunryu Suzuki said ‘In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few.’ Something about the word expert struck a chord. Had my subconscious built a construct that said ‘when you do this (act like an expert), say that (talk like an expert), look like this (appear like an expert… ok maybe try be an attractive one too), and achieve that (prove you’re an expert), you will have ARRIVED, you will be SUCCESSFUL, you will BE WORTH SOMETHING?’

If so, anyone even hinting at questioning my ‘expertise’ was really questioning my worth. No wonder I was couldn’t remain present! No wonder I went on the defensive! No wonder I could easily go on the attack in those moments too!

Since then I have discovered the most simply elegant and powerful antidote. It’s wholeheartedness. Moving your thinking from your head to your heart. As the Aquarian Gospel says ‘Fear, bitterness, hate and the like originate in the separating between man’s intellect and his heart.’

How do you do this? Lots of ways, but here’s a simple one. At the beginning of the day (and more often if you can), rub your hands together and then place your palms on your face for a minute. Close your eyes and just say ‘let me think with my heart.’ The rubbing activates the heart points in the hands bringing a potent heart energy to your mental processes.


There’s a Link Btw Soul and Power

So many references to Soul contain references to power. Power is to Soul as water is to the ocean. You can’t have one without the other. In exploring the nature of the Soul its essential to explore the nature of power too.

Psychologist’s say that perceptions of power and control, the belief that you can make the changes you desire are critical to mental health – and success. Two psychologists, Simms and Bauman go further, stating that the degree of power a person feels will determine the degree to which they fight to live or die. It’s clear that believing you are powerful is vital to healthy living on this planet. I go a step further: having a sense of your personal power is vital to living a Soul led life. (see my posting below on what Soul is.)

Unfortunately most people never give much thought to personal power, especially not in a spiritual context. Lots of prayers refer to the Power of God Almighty, but there are also many warnings which tell us that we challenge God at our own peril. Hell! I don’t want to incur the wrath of God! But because of the volume and intensity of Judaeo-Christian religious content in our collective Western psyche, it’s highly likely that most Westerners walk around with a subliminal fear of being powerful whether we have been exposed to religious thought or not!
I still dance with the cut off between my will versus ‘thy will be done’. I realise both need to be involved, but just how do I do it. Being personally powerful could be construed as being in competition to an omnipotent God.
If the fear of God is not enough, add to that the real threat that a powerful person brings to society’s status quo. Powerful people don’t just comply. They kick up a fuss, insist on being heard – and want to change things. Jesus is an example of such a person, so was Moses to name just two ‘up there’ beings. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Ghandi are less holy examples of people standing in their power, but how much poorer our world would have been without their courage and sense of personal power?
The question is are you prepared to take the risk and do the same? If you want to have a healthy relationship with your Soul, (and who doesn’t?) I believe you don’t have an option.’ But are you prepared to do the work to break the pattern of your learned powerlessness?
In our childhood we learn powerlessness.
As adults we need to reclaim it & retrain it.
According to Sandra ‘Power is a prickly pear. Who can I throw it to so I don’t have to hold onto it?’. Just why would we do this? Could it be that the most common model of power is simply lousy. It’s all about force, or power over people. This is a violating energy that I personally don’t enjoy being around so why would I aspire to it at all?
I have discovered is that genuine personal power is a completely different thing. Genuine personal power an honouring energy. Yes it’s strong enough to put down boundaries or be assertive when called on, but it’s a far cry from violating. Rather it’s a sacred moment in which we allow ourselves to stand in the centre of who we are. And when we stand in this centre, we say YES to ourselves and YES to our Soul. And that’s what I’m interested in.
This is how the Course in Miracles says it:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God . Your playing small does not serve the world

So how can we go about changing powerlessness to powerful in our daily lives? Here’s a tip:

1.Fill in an hourly chart, rating your feelings of personal power out of 10.
2.Note what events trigger an increase or decrease in your sense of power.
3.If you have a decrease, tap your finger lightly on your throat and say ‘I am willing to release the pattern that’s created this situation. I invite genuine personal power.’

This simple process will go to work on the unconscious patterns deep in your being. The more you take these three steps the greater the effect. By taking these simple actions you will be taking a step towards being a happier more successful you – a version of you that is able to stand in your centre and say YES to your Soul. Now that’s power!


Over the years I have come to realise that Soul is an over-lighting field of intelligence. Soul is a stream of energy, a Life Force. And it’s unique to you, holding unlimited information and energy specific to your life. Soul has all the answers.

St Augustine said that ‘The Soul is the life whereby we are joined to the body.‘ However many people have an unconscious notion that the Soul is an invisible person floating around in the ethers somewhere. Problem with this thinking is that it construes on Soul the limits we experience as humans.

Since Soul is the unlimited part of ourselves, with access to much much more, it’s important to build the right mental images of Soul to start with. Thinking of Soul as an amazing and all informed field of intelligence, and as a never ending source of wonderful energy, is the way to go. In thinking this way you open yourself to a fabulous and empowering relationship with your Soul. And having the right relationship with your Soul makes all the difference in your life.